A chat with the author of 'He just doesn't get it: Simple
Solutions to the Most Common Relationship Problems.'
(CNN) -- Ellen Sue Stern's most recent book He Just Doesn't
Get it! is a new and unique take on the timeless topic of men
and women and the calamities that go hand-in-hand with relationships.
This book goes far beyond man-bashing. Stern asks and provides answers, to
questions about the underlying motivations -- the why's -- which compel men
to behave the way they do, showing women how to solve problems with less defensiveness
and frustration on both sides of the gender equation. Often humorous in her
tone, Stern is never one to tread lightly. She calls it as she sees it, woman
to woman. Here is a transcript of a chat with Stern on February 2, 1999.
Question: What is the most common relationship problem?
Ellen Sue Stern: Actually, it's the most important question. What I've found
is that perhaps the simplest way to put this is that both men and women feel
misunderstood and unappreciated in their relationships.
Question: Can you tell me a little about your educational background?
Ellen Sue Stern: My educational background is in counseling, psychology. I've
spent the past 15 years doing relationship seminars...but to be very honest
with you, most of my books and my work are based on really looking at the same
issues in my own life. I think that's the most compelling way to work-to share
the same struggles that others have.
Question: Ms. Stern, what is the most common reason for men to stray from their
wives?
Ellen Sue Stern: I think men (and women, too) stray from their relationships
because they feel unsatisfied, usually because the magic, especially the emotional/erotic
connection has been lost.
Question: Why do women change the rules at least twice a month(even in marriage)?
Rules of the household, priorities, how she feels...
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